Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, princess, goddess, ma’am, sir)? What is your opinion of the use of titles in general?
At the moment I’m just going by Sir, this may change due to my and SmallOnes kink/relationship changing to more a Big/little state.
Since I don’t use a title much I don’t mind others use of them, but I think people should earn their titles (eg. Mistress’/Masters should actually show proficiency and care in what they do).
Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play? What significance does your attire have to you?
Since me and SmallOne don’t do public play as of yet I’m generally stark naked, but when going to events I try do dress in smart black buttoned shirt and pants since I can’t afford kink clothes yet.
That will be fixed soon hopefully :)
As for what the attire means to me; I’m not worried about clothing, it’s mostly an aesthetic pleasure.
Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?
Not really, as my interests are generally gaming/pc related, which would be hard to incorporate into play.
30 Days of Kink - Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?
Haven’t tried it, probably won’t. I prefer only playing with people in real life, but each to their own, if you like it do it!
30 Days of Kink - Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?
If people ask me about my kinks I will answer them honestly, but I don’t generally bring up kink-related topics with people I presume as vanilla unless they have already initiated it.
30 Days of Kink - Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?
Well, depends, guy or girl?
As I’m with a girl at the moment I’ll say my most recent likes.
I used to look for tall girls, generally olive skinned (Italian background or such), a good humour, quirkiness, intelligence and a little bit of craziness :3
But since SmallOne I’m definitely opening up to the small innocent girls, and anyone who can pull off neko!
As it is, intelligence and good humour are still the winners, I’m lucky to have scored both as well as cuteness with her, my little schoolgirl :P (Creeeeeepppyyy)
30 Days of Kink - Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed? How so?
When I started kink I was worried I would get, or be seen to be abusive.
Now that I’ve had time I’ve gotten past that worry with my loving submissive and great friends who share my interests. I personally view it as a way to share a different connection than what’s possible with vanilla couples, but that’s just me.
I definitely enjoy the kink more, and I’m also getting to expand my pleasures, for example I plan to continue some hot wax fun and light Knife Play with SmallOne this coming week!
So overall I’d say I’m warming up to it very quickly, vanilla sex is seeming duller every day, but I’d partake in it to share the simple connection without powerplay.
30 Days of Kink - Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?
The most obvious difference to me (with exception to the BDSM acts themselves) would be the aftercare, there is certainly more emphasis on this opposed to a vanilla coupling since both (or more) people would usually come out of a vanilla scene with small emotional disturbance and less stress.
Aftercare is beginning to be one of my favorite parts to a scene since I can see SmallOne without her usual inhibitions or social barriers, her soul is bare to me and that makes it more beautiful to see her laying in my arms.
30 Days of Kink - Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)
Currently I’m sorry to say I have not actually read a BDSM-themed book, but SmallOne has purchased a Two Knotty Boys book that she will be bringing up with her this weekend for us to read and use.
I do plan on getting around to reading more relevant books some time in the near future!
30 Days of Kink - Day 20: Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand
Hmm… I believe I understand the subjects I’ve heard about, so I guess you can have something I find interesting :)
Pet play is something I’ve been interested to try, I’ve always found something cute about the submissives/pets and how they approach their ‘role’ so to speak, and honestly any extra reason to see my SmallOne in her neko gear is a good one :P